I decided to do a study of the women of the Bible and thought, who better to start with than Eve. Eve is a bit loaded. She is the first woman to step into the role of wife and mother. I gleaned a lot. What I picked up from her story was transformational to my marriage. One thing that stuck out, and what I will focus on today, was Genesis 2:24. Upon marriage God considers a husband and wife "one." Based on the scripture a person may think of this being strictly a physical/primal perspective, but if you look in Matthew 19:5 you will see it is much deeper. This "oneness" is clearly spiritual. The actions of a husband or wife are not without effect. Every choice we make will help or hurt us and ultimately our whole family. The day we say I do, we are in this thing together. So choose wisely. There is a saying, "there is sin in the camp." This is a tilt towards Joshua 7. Achan sinned. The whole camp suffered for it. Whole families can suffer for the admonishing of one. Love and lead your children well. Be in their lives. Keep the lines of communication open with them, but don't get lost in them. It is easy. Especially being a homeschooler. They can become your world and that can leave your spouse feeling neglected, lonely and angry. The same is true of professional endeavors and sometimes hobbies. When you are so busy with other things and people that you have little time for them, your spouse can feel part of a world they no longer see where they fit into. This is fertile ground for trouble. It can come in the form of a "supportive" co-worker filling a void emotionally that can become physical, substance abuse, gambling and in extreme cases suicide. It is important to remember to keep your spouse second, only to God. Make time for your beloved. Pick a day and have a weekly date night. Even if you stay home, plan it out and make it special. Think honeymoon special. Be creative. There are games you can download online. Not cyber games, but printable. Unplug from the world and connect with your spouse. Take time each day to catch up. Even if you are away on business. Stay connected. If your relationship has grown cold, it may take time. First and foremost, do your best to draw closer to God. Second, become the best version of you that you can be and encourage your spouse to do the same. Last but not least, love your spouse well by God's definition of love. Your family will be blessed for it.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.